High school students across the country are reporting not knowing their siblings. They are describing a void feeling in themselves, indicating lack of attachment to parents. It appears to be connected to chronic stress from both parents working, kids stress in schools from dramas and lack friendships, social anxiety, and spending excess time on devices gaming. University of Iowa research team reported over 90% of 2-year-olds on screens last year. Will these kids go through the terrible 2's or pay the price when they experience adolescence?
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In the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) study by Kaiser Permanente and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention focused on extreme traumatic experiences. Research now is indicating that the daily environmental-relational circumstances and interactions have a profound influence on how children (all of us) develop throughout childhood.
Current research indicates children raised in constant exposure to chronic stress, often lack secure attachment to a parent(s) or caregiver. Parent(s) who are stressed regularly exhibit erratic and unpredictable behavior/disciplining strategies. Often impacting emotional regulation and can interfere with the development of a secure attachment to the parents, and peers. This lack of a strong bond can result in the same symptoms like a severe traumatic experience.
Parents/Schools focusing on behavior management strategies can make the symptoms increase and become more intense. Kids/students feeling isolated and are in the survival mode, need consistency, BUT foremost is a need for connectivity to a parent(s), teachers and their peers. It is through awareness, understanding, relationships, and new approaches we will hopefully create emotional stability and wellness in students.
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In 2003, as a school principal, Jerry Sparby experienced a school shooting that changed the focus of his life. He started/Executive Director of Building a World of Love Center (nonprofit) with doctors from Los Angeles, Boston, Dallas and Washington DC. He is a Parent Coach, Therapist and Counselor in his practice in St. Cloud, MN and Los Angeles, CA. Jerry works with kids of all ages, their parents, university students, police, veterans and their families dealing with PTSD, intense and out of control kids, anxiety, depression, and other medical referrals.
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